Forgiveness

"To err is human, to forgive is divine."
~Alexander Pope"


It is a proven fact that unresolved issues drain our energy. Holding a grudge will only hurt the person in possession of the grudge. It's like carrying a sack of potatoes over your shoulder. Chances are if your holding on to a grudge the only person who knows/cares about it is "you". Depending on how consuming it is you will think about it a few times per week or maybe even a few times per day. Either way, every time you think about it you are creating negative energy. This negative energy will attract more negative occurrences to you. Which will give you more negative things to think about, which cause you to create more negative energy. I think you can see where this is going. It is a vicious cycle of "like" attracts "like".

Anybody serious about achieving success and true happiness has to learn how to forgive. There is no way to be 100% happy with a program of negative emotion running in the background. It's like spyware on your computer, just running you down stealing your energy.

So what is the best way to harness forgiveness and make it work for you? First you have to figure out where your energy sucking grudge is hiding. It may be obvious, it may be not so obvious, you may have 1, or you may have a whole handful. It really doesn't matter. Just figure out what they are and write them down.

Once you have a list compiled, read it over and pick the one that "hurts" the most. This will be the one attracting the greatest amount of negative energy to you. If this person is passed or unreachable via phone or letter it is okay. You can still forgive somebody who is not present. Many psychologist believe that letter writing is a great form of therapy. The positive effects are achieved in the process of writing the letter and it does not matter if the letter is ever delivered. You can write a letter of forgiveness, put it in an envelope, and drop it in the nearest dumpster. The important part is that you will be free from that negative emotion associated with that issue now that it is resolved.

Visualization is also a powerful tool. You can visualize yourself delivering your letter of forgiveness and visualize the exact response that you want to achieve. This will not only expel your negative emotion, it will replace it with positive emotion and a feeling of settlement and peace. So now when you think of this person you will conjure up a positive response which will attract more positive energy to you. It's a win win situation.

It will take conscious effort, but in the future when ever you think of the person who was the topic of your forgiveness letter it will be beneficial to yourself to try to remember at least one positive thing about that person. You will have to intentionally direct our mind to focus on the positive for about 30 days, then it will become habit.

If you have a long list of forgiveness to dish out, it is okay to take your time. You may be able to take on 2 or 3 people at a time, but remember you have to be able to continually direct your thoughts about them in a positive way. It can become emotionally draining if your trying to forgive everybody all at once. Take your time and do it right.

Remember this; people do the best they can with the skills they have. Nobody intentionally becomes a bad parent, friend, or spouse. People don't fail in relationships on purpose or just for the fun of it. People fail in relationships because they lack the skills to succeed. They were never taught or never learned the proper way act, respond, love, grow, live, create, etc... By forgiving you will free up your own energy and heart to be happy and joyful. This will be a step in the right direction.

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world"
~ Gandhi~