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Just wanted to post an update on my Gram's progress at the nursing home. I talked to Aunt Marlene today and she said they put Gram on a treadmill yesterday. They had to use a harness to keep her steady while on the treadmill, but she was able to do a total of 11 minutes yesterday (4 minutes, then a break...3 minutes, then a break...then 4 more minutes). I think that's pretty impressive. The family also had a meeting with the nursing home staff to get a review of her progress since she got there. They said she improves a little everyday and there's still a possibility that she may eventually come home. They said the first 90 days are the most important.
It is hard being so far away from her and the rest of the family. Sometimes I wish I could just move back up to NY to be with them.
Thank you for keeping her in your thoughts and prayers.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Monday, August 16, 2010
L&L
I had to pull out the Love & Logic on Xavier tonight.....
It was 20 minutes before bedtime and he was asking to watch a LeapFrog video ("right now!"). I told him that I would let him watch the video if there was time left after he brushed his teeth and got his jammies on. This compromise was not satisfactory for him and he demanded to watch it "right now". He was actually having a meltdown over it!
I stayed calm and he walked with me to the bathroom. I brushed his teeth with out saying a word. The funny thing was that although he was screaming "I wanna watch it right now!" and having a meltdown he was still 100% cooperative when it came to getting ready for bed.
When he was finished getting ready he was still begging to watch the movie. I told him in a calm voice "I am sorry but I offered you a compromise and you did not except. There will be no video tonight, but you can try again tomorrow." This sent him for a tailspin! We walked into his bedroom, he still wasn't fighting me, just crying . He climbed into his bed. I covered him up. He was still crying and saying he wanted to watch the video and "Please give me one more chance". I told him I was sorry about his choice. I gave him a hug and a kiss and walked out of his room.
He proceeded to cry and scream for 10-15 minutes. Then he yelled for me to come into his room so he could tell me something. I walked in and he says "Mommy, I love you". I said "I love you too buddy, but you have to learn that when Mommy and Daddy offer you a compromise you can choose to take it or leave it, but if you choose to "leave it" then the deal is done and no amount of crying is going to get you what you want." He said "OK Mommy". I hugged him again, walked out and he went to sleep.
Rod and I both felt terrible the entire time he was screaming. It definitely would have been easier on us to give in and let him watch the video, but I am glad I/we stuck to our guns. Hopefully he learns a lesson from the night. Better to learn now at the age of 3 than to wait until he's in the real world at 23 or 33. Poor little guy. He probably wishes I never took those parenting classes (lol).
It was 20 minutes before bedtime and he was asking to watch a LeapFrog video ("right now!"). I told him that I would let him watch the video if there was time left after he brushed his teeth and got his jammies on. This compromise was not satisfactory for him and he demanded to watch it "right now". He was actually having a meltdown over it!
I stayed calm and he walked with me to the bathroom. I brushed his teeth with out saying a word. The funny thing was that although he was screaming "I wanna watch it right now!" and having a meltdown he was still 100% cooperative when it came to getting ready for bed.
When he was finished getting ready he was still begging to watch the movie. I told him in a calm voice "I am sorry but I offered you a compromise and you did not except. There will be no video tonight, but you can try again tomorrow." This sent him for a tailspin! We walked into his bedroom, he still wasn't fighting me, just crying . He climbed into his bed. I covered him up. He was still crying and saying he wanted to watch the video and "Please give me one more chance". I told him I was sorry about his choice. I gave him a hug and a kiss and walked out of his room.
He proceeded to cry and scream for 10-15 minutes. Then he yelled for me to come into his room so he could tell me something. I walked in and he says "Mommy, I love you". I said "I love you too buddy, but you have to learn that when Mommy and Daddy offer you a compromise you can choose to take it or leave it, but if you choose to "leave it" then the deal is done and no amount of crying is going to get you what you want." He said "OK Mommy". I hugged him again, walked out and he went to sleep.
Rod and I both felt terrible the entire time he was screaming. It definitely would have been easier on us to give in and let him watch the video, but I am glad I/we stuck to our guns. Hopefully he learns a lesson from the night. Better to learn now at the age of 3 than to wait until he's in the real world at 23 or 33. Poor little guy. He probably wishes I never took those parenting classes (lol).
Sunday, August 15, 2010
The Children's Advocacy Center's Annual Fall Fashion Show
This year Michelle and I are co-chairing the silent auction for the CAC Fall Fashion show. We are working on getting some awesome donations to bid on. If you are interested in attending and supporting a great cause call the Children's Advocacy Center @ 386-238-3830 and reserve your seat. Tickets are $45 per person. We are all working extra hard to make this a Fashion Show to remember. And remember we are always looking for more volunteers and donations, so if you are interested in helping out or if you have something you would like to donate to the silent auction, let me know.Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Food for Thought
...."the only meaning anything has in your life is the meaning you give it through your own judgement"
~James A. Ray from "Stop the World"
~James A. Ray from "Stop the World"
Monday, August 9, 2010
Something Bold
Well "they" say fate favors the bold. And when you get an inspired thought or idea that is a little out of character it is God, Spirit, The Higher Power, Subconscious, The Universe (which ever you prefer) nudging you in the right direction to get the results you are looking for.
Last night I got an inspired thought and I decided to go for it. It was a little out of the ordinary to say the least.
As all of the readers who know me personally know, my gram had a stroke a few weeks ago. It was very serious and they didn't think she was going to survive more than 24-48 hrs. She proved the doctors wrong and last week she was put into a nursing home. The nursing home is costing my grandparents $7,000/month out of pocket. Medicare will not pay for any of it until they have only $13,000 left to their names. Other than the stroke, both of my grandparents are in good health and will hopefully live at least 10 more years. We all know $13,000 is not enough to live 6 months on in this day and age. My grandparents don't get much social security because they retired at 40. They made some wise investments and have lived very frugally. I think they are still wearing the clothes they had when my dad was a kid. And they grow most of their own food in their garden.
Anyways, my grandparents both mean the world to me. They have always been there for me and I feel like it is my duty to help them pay for the nursing home. It is the least I can do.
My inspired thought has to do with helping them. I am trusting in God to help me here because this is almost like a shot in the dark. Everybody cross your fingers for me and say a little prayer. I don't want to let the cat out of the bag just yet, but I will keep you posted and let you know if it all pans out.
With Blessing, Guidance, and Love from God....
Last night I got an inspired thought and I decided to go for it. It was a little out of the ordinary to say the least.
As all of the readers who know me personally know, my gram had a stroke a few weeks ago. It was very serious and they didn't think she was going to survive more than 24-48 hrs. She proved the doctors wrong and last week she was put into a nursing home. The nursing home is costing my grandparents $7,000/month out of pocket. Medicare will not pay for any of it until they have only $13,000 left to their names. Other than the stroke, both of my grandparents are in good health and will hopefully live at least 10 more years. We all know $13,000 is not enough to live 6 months on in this day and age. My grandparents don't get much social security because they retired at 40. They made some wise investments and have lived very frugally. I think they are still wearing the clothes they had when my dad was a kid. And they grow most of their own food in their garden.
Anyways, my grandparents both mean the world to me. They have always been there for me and I feel like it is my duty to help them pay for the nursing home. It is the least I can do.
My inspired thought has to do with helping them. I am trusting in God to help me here because this is almost like a shot in the dark. Everybody cross your fingers for me and say a little prayer. I don't want to let the cat out of the bag just yet, but I will keep you posted and let you know if it all pans out.
With Blessing, Guidance, and Love from God....
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